Mothers day is a bitter sweet occasion for me as I don't have my own mother to spoil and spend the day with. My mother walked out of our life a few years ago and has since done some unforgivable things to me and my children. It is sadder for her because she misses out on being involved in the kids life as well as mine. She has had the door opened for her on a few occasions over the years, but never accepted.
The thing is that Tilly doesn't have a grandmother, so that is where my aunt stepped in, she told me when Tilly was a baby that it wasn't right that Tilly didn't have grandparents and she was going to be Tillys Nanny Jan and my uncle was going to be Grandad Camper (they love camper vans). Some little words that in the grand scheme of things mean't so much to me and she was one of the first people I turned to when I found out the life changing things last summer. She is always the first person I tell when I have a secret and she is the first port of call if I have a free weekend and no where to go. She moved house last year to get away from us and we still found her so we are stuck with her forever! In fact one of the bedrooms in the new house is called Tillys room (it isn't but she said to Tilly 'here is your room' so tilly thinks its hers permanently)
Not only is it my aunt and uncle who have taken Tilly on, it is my cousins too and they make a special effort to see us when we visit, they are like the sisters I never had. They have no choice really as I make them come and visit us hahaha. Tilly does get confused with the family dynamics, but I tell her its nothing to be worried about and that these people love her very much.
Tilly has asked me about my mother and whether she can meet her, but although Kim tried to set it up, she never replied to any emails despite it showing that it has been read. Each time this happens, or each time my mother does something to hurt or ignore my family it makes my heart break a little bit more for the kids.